Dear Jeff,
I’m having a hard time coping, but maybe it isn’t necessary to be stoic in order to cope. Maybe tears and tantrums are my way of coping for now. If nothing else, those tears and tantrums help get rid of the terrible stress of grief.
I feel as if I’ve been abandoned by you. You were the only one who ever truly cared for me, and I don’t know how to be alone. I don’t mean physically alone — that I can do. I mean that mental, spiritual, emotional aloneness when there is no one in the world who cares on a daily basis. I know there are some people who care sporadically when they get a few minutes, but it sure isn’t something for me to build a life on.
I’m feeling sorry for myself. I keep hoping something good will happen. I need something to offset this pervasive sadness. The years stretch bleakly before me. It’s just too sad.
Adios, compadre. I love you.
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Pat Bertram is the author of the suspense novels Unfinished, Madame ZeeZee’s Nightmare, Light Bringer, More Deaths Than One, A Spark of Heavenly Fire, and Daughter Am I. Bertram is also the author of Grief: The Great Yearning, “an exquisite book, wrenching to read, and at the same time full of profound truths.” Connect with Pat on Google+. Like Pat on Facebook
November 7, 2014 at 8:24 pm
In my third month…going on the fourth month of my own grieving I can so relate to what you wrote here. The pain is greater than anything I’ve ever felt. I hold hope knowing that you have moved forward. God Bless you Pat
November 7, 2014 at 10:13 pm
I truly can relate. It’s unbelievable how agonizing the grief is, as if part of you has been amputated. I am thinking of you, and wishing you peace.