I’ve been invited to write a guest blog for UniteWomen.org. This is a huge honor since the Facebook group alone has more than 80,000 fans, so of course I said yes. To be honest, though, I would have said yes even if they honly 800 “likes” — I’m a big fan of the woman who asked me, and I appreciate the work she does to help empower women.
Oddly, I’ve never felt disempowered as a women, perhaps because I seldom define myself by gender, religion, nationality, age, or any other consideration. I am simply . . . a being in flux. I have felt powerless at times, but not because of being a woman. The powerlessness came from being in situations greater than my abilities. Sometimes I developed the necessary abilities, other times I simply endured. Either way, somehow I moved beyond the powerlessness and here I am — still strong, still developing my abilities, still learning to empower myself.
(Grief was one of those situations where I felt powerless, but I embraced the experience and endured.)
I have a third way of getting through situations greater than my abilities, such as my current inability to decide on a blog topic — I ask my blog readers for their input.
The woman suggested several topics for the guest blog:
- Anything relating to women’s rights, gender equality, your identity as a woman (in and/or out of the romantic partnership).
- Re-establishing your identity as a woman after the loss of your partner.
- Lessons learned — anything that would empower or inspire other women.
- How writing can be very healing and that you would recommend it to anyone who has gone through trauma.
- How female friends supported you through grief.
- Whatever you want to say to 80,000 women who are struggling for equality.
She also suggested a post about women judging and criticizing other women, like those who told me to “get over it” when I was grieving, but I don’t want to do that one. Sounds too antithetical for the blog.
Do any of these topics strike you as being more interesting than the others? Or is there another topic besides those listed that I should consider doing?
Pat Bertram is the author of the suspense novels Light Bringer, More Deaths Than One, A Spark of Heavenly Fire, and Daughter Am I. Bertram is also the author of Grief: The Great Yearning, “an exquisite book, wrenching to read, and at the same time full of profound truths.” Follow Pat on Google+. Like Pat on Facebook.