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		<title>Balm to a Writer&#8217;s Bruised Psyche</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 28 Jan 2012 05:43:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Pat Bertram</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Not only do I not understand this new publish-anything world, I don’t understand this everyone-is-a-reviewer world. It used to be that professional reviewers (I am including reviewers employed by newspapers and magazines in this category) pretty much decided what were considered worthwhile books, and readers either paid attention to those recommendations and bought the books [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=ptbertram.wordpress.com&amp;blog=1786222&amp;post=4130&amp;subd=ptbertram&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/3-15-11.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-3418" title="Reading Light Bringer" src="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/3-15-11.jpg?w=300&#038;h=226" alt="" width="300" height="226" /></a>Not only do I not understand this <a title="Perplexed by the Anything-Goes Publishing World (Part I)" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2012/01/11/perplexed-by-the-anything-goes-publishing-world/">new publish-anything world</a>, I don’t understand this <a title="Who Gets to Define What is Art?" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2012/01/13/who-gets-to-define-what-is-art/">everyone-is-a-reviewer world</a>.</p>
<p>It used to be that professional reviewers (I am including reviewers employed by newspapers and magazines in this category) pretty much decided what were considered worthwhile books, and readers either paid attention to those recommendations and bought the books or ignored the recommendations and bought whatever they felt like. Today, anyone is a reviewer, whether s/he is qualified or not. All it takes is an opinion. The thing is, readers who see those reviews don’t take them as an opinion. They give them the same credence they gave the professional reviewers.</p>
<p>To be honest, I don’t know if it’s better to have a certain literary elite passing judgment on the books or if it’s better to have casual readers doing it. Either way, people are “grading” books based on nothing more than a whim. And those whims can destroy a writer’s career, or at least keep people from buying her books.</p>
<p><em>Light Bringer</em> is my magnum opus, the result of twenty years of research into myths, both ancient and modern. I created an entirely new worldview based on these myths, one that could very well be true if the Sumerian cosmology and today’s conspiracy theories are true. According to the editors and agents who rejected the manuscript, it was unsellable. It had too many science fiction elements to be commercial and not enough science fiction elements to be science fiction. Because of this, I purposely did not send <em>Light Bringer</em> out for review. People generally hate books they can not categorize, and at best, <em>Light Bringer</em> has a narrow niche. Still, a few readers have given the book glowing reviews, so when a reviewer contacted me recently asking for a copy of the book to review, I sent it to her.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t know why she wanted to review <em>Light Bringer.  </em>As it turns out, she&#8217;s a romance reviewer, and <em>Light Bringer</em> is not a romance and was never promoted as such. Even worse, she hadn’t a clue what the book was about. To be fair, she is used to paranormal romances she can quickly skim through, but I don’t want to be fair to her since she wasn’t fair to me. She wrote a terrible review and posted it on the review site. Why? What’s the point of posting a terrible review of a book you don&#8217;t understand? It’s not as if I asked her to review the book. She asked me. Adding to the insult, the review doesn’t even make sense. If it didn’t have the name of my book on it, I would never have recognized it as my story.</p>
<p>On the other hand, some people do understand <em>Light Bringer</em> and they honor the book with their poetic descriptions.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.sheiladeeth.blogspot.com/">Sheila Deeth</a> wrote:</p>
<p><em>Pat Bertram&#8217;s novel soars in her descriptions of mystery and scenery. The song of the rainbow flows through the characters, binding them together, while the silence of the great unknown drives them and pulls them apart. </em></p>
<p><em>The unknown, when finally revealed, is satisfyingly strange, though, unlike many of the characters, I maintain a healthy respect for the integrity of scientists and science. Romantic subplots are simultaneously lyrical and down-to-earth; dialog is natural and sometimes laugh-out-loud fun; secrets of history and astronomy are intriguing; and the whole is a fascinating read &#8212; a touch of old-fashioned sci-fi, blended with modern magic and corporate greed, shaken, stirred and conspired against, then woven into beautiful words.</em></p>
<p><a href="http://aaronlazar.blogspot.com/">Aaron Paul Lazar</a> wrote:<em></em></p>
<p><em>I&#8217;m already a fan of Pat Bertram&#8217;s books. I&#8217;ve read them all and loved them deeply. But LIGHT BRINGER was something completely new and surprising&#8230; surprising in its freshness, originality, its genre bending brilliance. Part thriller, part fantasy, part sci fi, part mystery&#8230;its plots were large and complex, encompassing themes that plague us every day; offering social and world commentary blended with weather trend observations (where ARE all those tornadoes and tsunamis coming from??) I do believe Bertram has defined a new genre, and it is a pure delight. Fresh. Original. Riveting. The characters are real and engaging. I particularly enjoyed the bit of romance between Luke and Jane &#8212; yes, another subplot. I couldn&#8217;t put it down and extend my highest compliments to Ms. Bertram for her supremely smooth writing &#8212; there are no hiccups in this book. Very highly recommended.</em></p>
<p>Ah, balm to a writer’s bruised psyche.</p>
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		<title>Three Things Television Tells Us About The Future of Writing by Dale Cozort</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jan 2012 20:48:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Pat Bertram</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Please welcome Dale Cozort, the author of Exchange, published by Stairway Press. I met Dale during a contest on Gather.com before either of us was published, and we still hang out at The Writin&#8217; Wombats, a writers&#8217; discussion/support group on the site. Dale writes science fiction; time-blending, mind-bending, brain-teasing novels and essays. These mashups of alternate history, science [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=ptbertram.wordpress.com&amp;blog=1786222&amp;post=4123&amp;subd=ptbertram&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p><strong><a href="http://www.stairwaypress.com/bookstore/exchange/"><img class="alignleft" title="Exchange" src="http://dragonmyfeet.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/exchangefrontcoverthumbnail.jpg?w=104&#038;h=180&#038;h=162" alt="" width="104" height="162" /></a></strong><strong>Please welcome <a title="Dale Cozort's Website" href="http://dalecozort.com" target="_blank">Dale Cozort</a>, the author of <em>Exchange,</em> published by <a title="Stairway Press" href="http://www.stairwaypress.com/bookstore/exchange/" target="_blank">Stairway Press</a>. I met Dale during a contest on Gather.com before either of us was published, and we still hang out at The Writin&#8217; Wombats, a writers&#8217; discussion/support group on the site. Dale writes science fiction; time-blending, mind-bending, brain-teasing novels and essays. These mashups of alternate history, science fiction and mystery realistically reshape the past and create new worlds that never were. Dale is one of the smartest people I have ever encountered &#8212; a real thinker &#8212; and I am honored that he is a guest here on Bertram&#8217;s Blog today.</strong></p>
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<p style="text-align:center;">Three Things Television Tells Us About The Future of Writing<br />
By: Dale Cozort</p>
<p>Book publishing is going through a transition with an uncertain endpoint. The trends of the last few years in television may give us insights on the future of books, in three areas. As in TV, the transition will involve flattening the pyramid, writers and audiences franticly searching for one another, and increased competition with the past.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m showing my age a little when I say this, but when I was very young we had three television networks, each with about three hours of prime-time programming per night. I watched cable television turn those three channels into ten channels and then fifty and then over five hundred. I looked forward to each expansion, thinking that it would free up huge amounts of latent creativity and give me the freedom to watch programs I really liked instead of generic programs intended for a wide audience. That sort of happened, but with some downsides that can help us predict how a similar but even bigger expansion in the number of ways to get a book to the public will play out.</p>
<p>Expanding the ways to market will flatten the pyramid. In the old days of three network channels, TV writers, actors, directors and other creative types formed a steep pyramid. At the top were the stars, directors and writers in hit shows. Below that were the less successful actors, writers and directors who were actually on television or had a show on TV. Below that were a mass of people aspiring to get there, combining bit parts and day jobs to keep up the dream. Aspiring actress often meant waitress. Aspiring screen writer often meant administrative assistant.</p>
<p>The opening up of television meant that while most of those aspiring television types still couldn&#8217;t quit their day jobs, more of them could, a lot more. More TV channels meant a flatter pyramid, with more people making a living or coming close to it at the bottom end. That also had a downside of sorts: the top of the pyramid wasn&#8217;t quite as high. As the major networks lost market share, few programs reached the kind of audiences that programs routinely reached in the heyday of the three networks. Smaller markets made it more difficult for the networks to justify the kinds of expenses and production values that they could routinely use earlier.</p>
<p>Until recently, the major New York publishers have played somewhat the same role as the three networks, though they&#8217;ve never had as complete a control of the market for books as the networks had over television. Funneling writing through the major publishers resulted in the same kind of income pyramid we saw in television, though with much lower incomes throughout the pyramid. In terms of income and exposure, there are a very few rich and successful writers at the top, a few more writers who earn a moderate to upper-middle class income, and a huge number of people who never come close to earning an income from writing.</p>
<p>Opening up the publishing process will probably flatten the pyramid for writing, just as it did for television. As in TV, the base should grow; should make it possible for more people to make money writing. At the same time, more publishing venues fighting over a static or declining audience will make it more difficult for people who aren&#8217;t already at the top of the pyramid to reach the kind of audience size and financial security that existing big name authors enjoy. In other words, it will get easier to earn a few hundred or a few thousand dollars a year writing, but it will be more difficult to be the next Steven King, or even the next moderately successful writer earning a living wage, simply because there will be more competition for reader attention.</p>
<p>Frantically searching for your audience: Television also gives us a preview of the challenge most writers will face in a world with more publishing channels: finding your audience. If I turn on my TV and flip through the channels, I find very little of interest. A lot of times I end up turning off the TV because there not only isn&#8217;t anything on I want to watch, but there isn&#8217;t even anything on that I can stand to watch, not even as background. At the same time, I come across quite a few shows that I would have loved, but they came and went before I found them. Finding new programs to watch among five hundred channels is a challenge. Finding new authors to read is already challenging. It will get more challenging as the publishing channels broaden. Finding the people who love would love to read what you write is going to be the biggest problem new writers face as they try to establish themselves.</p>
<p>Competing with the past: If you flip through the five hundred television channels on your cable, you&#8217;ll notice that an awful lot of them are reruns, with whole networks devoted to bringing you the best TV shows of past decades. E-books especially bring somewhat the same theme to book publishing. There are decades worth of out-of-copyright books out there that can easily go on a Nook or a Kindle. Readers can go directly to Gutenberg Project, or pay a dollar or two to get collections with better organization and extras. Old television competes with new shows for TV-watching audiences. Old books also compete with new ones for reader audiences, and the easy availability of those books on e-readers makes the competition more direct.</p>
<p>As writers who aren&#8217;t at the top of the pyramid, most of us want to get at least far enough up it to make a living writing. E-books and the ease of self-publishing give us new routes to that, but there are downsides, as we’ve seen. The new routes to publication mean more competition, readers having more difficulty finding compatible writers and vice versa. The changes aren’t all good or all bad, but they are inevitable and writers need to try to understand and adapt to them.</p>
<p>See also:</p>
<ul>
<li><a title="Future of Books: The Problem of Filtering (part 1)" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2009/01/02/future-of-books-the-problem-of-filtering-part-1/">Future of Books: The Problem of Filtering (part 1)</a> by Dale Cozort</li>
<li><a title="The Future of Books: The Problem of Filtering (Part 2)" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2009/01/04/the-future-of-books-the-problem-of-filtering-part-2/">The Future of Books: The Problem of Filtering (Part 2)</a> by Dale Cozort</li>
<li><a title="The Future of Books: The Problem of Filtering (Part 3)" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2009/01/04/the-future-of-books-the-problem-of-filtering-part-3/">The Future of Books: The Problem of Filtering (Part 3)</a> by Dale Cozort</li>
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<p><strong>Click here to read: <a title="Excerpt From “Exchange” by Dale Cozort" href="http://dragonmyfeet.wordpress.com/2012/01/26/excerpt-from-exchange-by-dale-cozort/">Excerpt From “Exchange” by Dale Cozort</a></strong></p>
<p><strong>Click here for an interview with: <a title="Dale Cozort, Author of “Exchange" href="http://patbertram.wordpress.com/2012/01/26/dale-cozort-author-of-exchange/">Dale Cozort, Author of “Exchange</a></strong></p>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jan 2012 04:29:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I must be getting a grip on my grief despite the recurring upsurges of sadness because more and more I’m seeing the bizarreness of the process rather than simply experiencing it. On Friday, it will be twenty-two months since my life mate/soul mate died and though I’ve never felt his presence the way some people sense a [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=ptbertram.wordpress.com&amp;blog=1786222&amp;post=4118&amp;subd=ptbertram&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/chain.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-4084" title="chain" src="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/chain.jpg?w=150&#038;h=107" alt="" width="150" height="107" /></a>I must be getting a grip on my grief despite the recurring upsurges of sadness because more and more I’m seeing <a title="There is Something Totally Bizarre About Grief" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2012/01/23/there-is-something-totally-bizarre-about-grief/">the bizarreness of the process</a> rather than simply experiencing it. On Friday, it will be twenty-two months since my life mate/soul mate died and though I’ve never felt his presence the way some people sense a connection with their dead mates, sometimes I feel his absence as if it’s a living entity.</p>
<p>I was sitting in the dentist chair yesterday, waiting alone for the <a title="“Just Right” and The Power of Three" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2012/01/24/just-right-and-the-power-of-three/">verdict on my gum infection</a>, when all of a sudden I started crying. We’d always gone together to the dentist, doctors, optometrists, etc, and yesterday, sitting alone, I could feel that he wasn’t waiting for me. I could actually sense that he wasn’t in the reception area, could feel the substance of his absence like a white hole (as opposed to a black hole). Just one more bizarre aspect of grief.</p>
<p>Oddly, I didn&#8217;t realize what a comfort his presence was at such times until it was gone. I took his presence for granted (not him &#8212; I never took him for granted), but it was as if his presence were part of the very air I breathed, and now that he has disappeared from my life, I’m stuck breathing the standard nitrogen/oxygen mix. And it’s not enough.</p>
<p>I don’t mind that I don’t feel his presence. If he still exists somewhere, I hope he has something more thrilling to do than watch over me, and I certainly hope he has something more thrilling to do than wait at the dentist’s office for me. But . . . I truly don’t understand how he can be dead. Don’t understand where he has gone. Don’t understand what death is. Don’t understand what life is, either, to be honest.</p>
<p>All I know is that he is gone from my life, and never again will I feel the comfort of his presence.</p>
<p>But it makes me wonder: did he feel the comfort of my presence? I was there at the end of his life. I was there when he took his last breaths. I hope he felt my presence the way I used to feel his. I hope it gave him comfort. Hope it still does.</p>
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		<title>&#8220;Just Right&#8221; and The Power of Three</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Jan 2012 03:07:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Pat Bertram</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I don’t like to get too personal on this blog (well, except for the whole grief thing, though that’s beginning to seem less personal and more mythic) but today something happened that is making me veer off my normal track. I needed an antibiotic for a gum infection, and when I went to pay for [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=ptbertram.wordpress.com&amp;blog=1786222&amp;post=4112&amp;subd=ptbertram&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/007b.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-4113" title="three bears" src="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/007b.jpg?w=150&#038;h=117" alt="" width="150" height="117" /></a>I don’t like to get too personal on this blog (well, except for <a title="Grief: Yearning for a World that Makes Sense" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2012/01/21/grief-yearning-for-a-world-that-makes-sense/">the whole grief thing</a>, though that’s beginning to seem less personal and more mythic) but today something happened that is making me veer off my normal track.</p>
<p>I needed an antibiotic for a gum infection, and when I went to pay for the order, they told me it would be $67.99. My poor sore tooth about dropped out of my mouth. I’d recently picked up a prescription for antibiotics for someone else, and it came to $11.95. The last time I needed antibiotics, the prescription was $18.50. The pharmacist today said this particular brand was stronger than the others, but when I asked if it was fifty dollars stronger, he wouldn’t give me a straight answer. So I called my dentist’s office. They agreed that this particular brand was strong, but that another, slightly cheaper one would do as well.</p>
<p>I went back to the pharmacist to pick up the new prescription. I was expecting a twenty- or thirty-dollar transaction, but this time the bill came to $4.00. Say, what? A four-dollar drug gives the same result as a sixty-eight dollar drug? I asked the pharmacist if I should stick with the stronger one. Again, no straight answer, just a bit of mumbling about teeth needing a special antibiotic due to the teeth’s connection to the heart.</p>
<p>So, I called my dentist again. Asked if this cheap antibiotic would work as well as the more expensive one. She said, “It should.” Um. Should? Not exactly the answer I was looking for. Finally she admitted they should have prescribed the cheaper one in the first place. So. Here I am with my $4.00 antibiotic that seems as underpriced as the first seemed overpriced, and it makes me itchy. Where’s the third option, the “just right” one?</p>
<p>“Just right” is the rule that is ingrained in us. We learned the power of three as kids via the story of the three bears. First too much, then too little, and finally, just right. The story would have been completely different and had little appeal if, after trying the papa porridge and finding it too hot, Goldilocks tried the mama porridge, found it too cold, but ate it anyway. Or if, after she lay down on the papa bed and finding it too hard, she tried the mama bed, found it too soft, but fell asleep anyway.</p>
<p>See what I mean about the just right? The antibiotic I’m now taking probably will work, but with the final third of the formula missing, I’ll never feel quite right about taking such a cheap medication. And that is exactly what many drug companies count on. A lot of them arbitrarily raise their prices so that they are between the highest and the lowest, knowing it will make us feel just right even if the stuff is no different than the cheaper version. And darn it! It works, even when we know better. Such is t<a title="The Power of Three" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/the-power-of-three/">he power of three</a>.</p>
<p>(I was checking <a title="Archives — All My Posts" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/archives/">my blog archive</a> for when I’ve previously mentioned <a title="The Most Powerful Tool at a Writer’s Command" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2008/04/01/the-most-powerful-tool-at-a-writers-command/">The Three Bears and the power of three</a>, and I came across this remark I wrote in <a title="The Themes of Our Lives" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2009/09/09/the-themes-of-our-lives/">September, 2009</a>: <em>Someone asked me recently if I ever considered writing a novelization of my life, and I just laughed. There is no story in my life – nothing noteworthy ever happened to me, and I never did anything that millions of others didn’t also do. </em>A bit ironic considering that in just a couple of weeks, a book about me and my grief journey will be published. Now that I think about it, I was right. I never did do anything that millions of others didn’t also do, but that’s the beauty of <a title="My Grief Book is One Step Closer to Publication" href="http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2012/01/19/my-grief-book-is-one-step-closer-to-publication/"><em>Grief: The Great Yearning</em>.</a> My journey is universal. And, unfortunately, it isn’t a novelization. It’s the truth.)</p>
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		<title>There is Something Totally Bizarre About Grief</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 24 Jan 2012 03:32:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Pat Bertram</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sometimes grief strikes me as being totally bizarre. For example, the eighteen-month mark is particularly difficult, sometimes even more so than the one-year anniversary. I do not know why, I just know that it is because so many of us bereft experience the same thing. In my case, for a couple weeks around the eighteen-month [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=ptbertram.wordpress.com&amp;blog=1786222&amp;post=4102&amp;subd=ptbertram&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/0261.jpg"><img class="alignleft  wp-image-4103" title="Black Canyon of the Gunnison" src="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/0261.jpg?w=240&#038;h=180" alt="" width="240" height="180" /></a>Sometimes grief strikes me as being totally bizarre. For example, the eighteen-month mark is particularly difficult, sometimes even more so than the one-year anniversary. I do not know why, I just know that it is because so many of us bereft experience the same thing. In my case, for a couple weeks around the eighteen-month mark, I felt as I had during the first months after my life mate/soul mate died. Somehow, someway, it seemed as if he just died. And maybe in a way, he had. Grief is a journey of starts and stops, retracing steps, standing still to catch your breath, and then being pushed into the future again. Each step forward in grief’s journey is a step further away from our loved one, a step further away from the last time we talked, or hugged, or smiled at each other. Now, all we have left of them are our memories, and as each memory fades, a bit more of our loved ones die.</p>
<p>But such incremental deaths do not explain the upsurge of grief at eighteen months. (Here’s an ironic twist &#8212; I googled “Why is there an upsurge of grief at eighteen months? And the top three links that came up were links to this blog.) Oddly this upsurge is not a conscious one. I knew the date, of course, but I had no expectation of feeling any different at eighteen months than I had at seventeen months, so once again, grief took me by surprise. But the upsurge happens even if you lose track of time.</p>
<p>I received this email from a bereft friend today: <em>I woke up crying at 6 this morning and didn&#8217;t stop until after noon. This reminds me of those months right after he died. I haven&#8217;t had such severe morning cries for a long time. I guess I might be heading into that upsurge a little earlier than expected.</em></p>
<p>I emailed her back, saying she was right on time since this was her eighteenth month.</p>
<p>Her response: <em>Good grief. Time is losing meaning for me. I&#8217;ve been thinking my 18th month starts in February. I guess I&#8217;ve been subconsciously trying to avoid it.</em></p>
<p>See? Even when you get the date wrong, your body knows. There really is something totally bizarre about grief.</p>
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		<title>As a Reader, What Would You Like to Ask a Publisher?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Jan 2012 05:52:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[My interview blog Pat Bertram Introduces . . . is really taking off. I post author interviews and character interviews, and someone suggested I post publisher interviews, too. Sounds like an interesting idea, especially since I&#8217;d like to do more to support small independent royalty-paying presses that publish books by a variety of authors. (Like Second Wind Publishing, the [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=ptbertram.wordpress.com&amp;blog=1786222&amp;post=4098&amp;subd=ptbertram&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/book.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-4045" title="book" src="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/book.jpg?w=150&#038;h=108" alt="" width="150" height="108" /></a>My interview blog<a title="Pat Bertram Introduces . . ." href="http://patbertram.wordpress.com/" target="_blank"> Pat Bertram Introduces . . .</a> is really taking off. I post author interviews and character interviews, and someone suggested I post publisher interviews, too. Sounds like an interesting idea, especially since I&#8217;d like to do more to support small independent royalty-paying presses that publish books by a variety of authors. (Like <a title="Pat Bertram's page at Second Wind" href="http://secondwindpublishing.com/PatBertram.html" target="_blank">Second Wind Publishing</a>, the company that publishes my books.)</p>
<p>Before I can do the interviews, I have to compile a list of questions such as my <a title="author questionnaire" href="http://patbertram.wordpress.com/author-questionnaire/" target="_blank">author questionnaire</a> or my <a title="character questionnaire" href="http://patbertram.wordpress.com/character-questionaire/" target="_blank">character questionnaire</a>. Some of the author questions might be applicable, but I&#8217;m more interested in getting behind the scenes of the publishing companies to help readers learn more about small presses. And I don&#8217;t want to ask writer-oriented questions such as submission policies and what royalties they pay because I&#8217;m trying to steer readers their way.</p>
<p>So, as a reader, what would you like to ask a publisher? What genres they publish, of course, and the criteria they use to choose the books they decide to publish. How they decided to become a publisher might be a good question. What else?</p>
<p>[If you are a publisher who would like to be interviewed, please leave your name as a comment/reply. If you are an author who would like to do an interview for me or have your character do an interview with me, please go to either the  <a title="author questionnaire" href="http://patbertram.wordpress.com/author-questionnaire/" target="_blank">author questionnaire</a> or <a title="character questionnaire" href="http://patbertram.wordpress.com/character-questionaire/" target="_blank">character questionnaire</a> (or both!) and follow the directions.]</p>
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		<title>Grief: Yearning for a World that Makes Sense</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 22 Jan 2012 00:26:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Pat Bertram</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In a week, it will be twenty-two months since my life mate/soul mate died. Sometimes it seems like he slipped out of my life just yesterday; sometimes it seems as if he’s been dead forever. And I still cannot fathom his goneness. It makes no sense that he is no longer here on this earth. [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=ptbertram.wordpress.com&amp;blog=1786222&amp;post=4095&amp;subd=ptbertram&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2010/10/128b.jpg"><img class=" wp-image-2455 alignleft" title="SANYO DIGITAL CAMERA" src="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2010/10/128b.jpg?w=180&#038;h=135" alt="" width="180" height="135" /></a>In a week, it will be twenty-two months since my life mate/soul mate died. Sometimes it seems like he slipped out of my life just yesterday; sometimes it seems as if he’s been dead forever. And I still cannot fathom his goneness. It makes no sense that he is no longer here on this earth.</p>
<p>The worst trauma I am facing now is his continued absence. I don’t have the totally mind-numbing pain that I did in the beginning, nor do I head to another room in search of him a dozen times a day. I do, however, still desperately yearn to talk to him, and the longer I go without talking to him, the more the yearning builds up with no way to relieve it. (Yearning sounds so mild for the longing that claws at me, but it’s still the best word to describe what I feel.)</p>
<p>My own experiences and the experiences of my fellow bereft have shown that it is not anger or any of the other Kübler-Ross stages that fuels our grief, but yearning to see our mates once more, to have one more conversation, one more word, one more smile. I do talk to him, especially when I’m walking in the desert. (Though why there I don’t know. He didn’t like the desert, didn’t like the heat.) But he never answers back. One-sided conversations do little to satisfy the yearning, though sometimes they bring a bit of comfort.</p>
<p>I am lucky in that we had a chance to say everything we needed to say before he died, so there are no lingering issues or questions I have to discuss with him but, for me, need is not the issue. I want to talk to him. He had a great grasp on the intricacies of life and on modern history, he had a well-researched historical perspective on current events, and he loved books and movies. We could talk about anything and everything, and not once in our thirty-four shared years did he filter my words through his prejudices or beliefs. That is such a rare quality in a world where it’s so easy to bang one’s verbal shins on the rocks in other people’s heads.</p>
<p>We all have rocks in our heads &#8212; the rocks being our opinions, prejudices, beliefs, stubbornly held viewpoints, preconceived notions, assumptions, attitudes, falsehoods we hold to be true. Sometimes the rocks are soft and fall apart under the touch of reason. Other times the rocks are boulders that take up all available space, leaving no room for a new idea. If my mate had any rocks, they were more like a few shifting grains of sand that could take into account anyone’s truths, and that made him easy to talk to.</p>
<p>I should be glad I had him for all those years since so few people find someone they can truly talk to, someone who will listen, and I am glad. But . . . how can the earth survive without him? After he died, the planet felt tilted, and I had a hard time keeping my balance, but now I’m growing used to living on the slant. But I still yearn for a world that makes sense the way it used to, and I still yearn to talk to him.</p>
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		<title>I Wish I Was, I Wish I Were</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 21 Jan 2012 04:03:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Pat Bertram</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I’m implementing the edits to Grief: The Great Yearning my last couple of readers suggested, and I was doing fine until I hit this passage: I’m trying to find comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering, and for a moment yesterday I even envied him. I wish my pain were over, too. Both readers [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=ptbertram.wordpress.com&amp;blog=1786222&amp;post=4090&amp;subd=ptbertram&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/official.jpg"><img class=" wp-image-4088 alignleft" title="Grief: The Great Yearning by Pat Bertram" src="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/official.jpg?w=123&#038;h=189" alt="" width="123" height="189" /></a>I’m implementing the edits to <em>Grief: The Great Yearning</em> my last couple of readers suggested, and I was doing fine until I hit this passage:</p>
<p><em>I’m trying to find comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering, and for a moment yesterday I even envied him. I wish my pain were over, too.</em></p>
<p>Both readers said “were” should be “was.” Since they are readers, not editors or grammarians, I ignored the suggestion, especially since MS Word grammar check agrees with me. Still, something niggled at me, so I spent an hour online reading various articles comparing <em>I wish it were </em>vs. <em>I wish it was</em>. And this is what I found:</p>
<p><em>Were</em> is used if what is wished for is impossible, Such as <em>I wish the sky were pink with green polka dots.</em></p>
<p><em>Was</em> is used if what is wished for is possible, such as <em>I wish the sky was blue</em>.</p>
<p>The first sentence connotes a futile longing for the fantastic, the second connotes hope for a future day when the sky will be again be blue.</p>
<p>Another pair of examples:</p>
<p><em>I wish I were home again, sitting on the veranda, drinking sweet tea with my mama.</em></p>
<p><em>I wish I was home again, sitting on the veranda, drinking sweet tea with my mama</em>.</p>
<p>Using <em>were</em> in the first sentence conjures up futility; I can never go home again, perhaps because the house burned down or my mama died. Using <em>was</em> in the second sentence conjures nostalgia and looking forward to going home and seeing my mama again. All that from a simple switch of verbs! Such is the beauty of our nuanced language.</p>
<p>So, how does this translate to my editing problem? I changed <em>were</em> to <em>was</em>. When I wrote the sentence twenty-one months ago, I deliberately used <em>were</em>. I thought it impossible that the pain of those early days would ever diminish. And yet, though I still have bouts of pain at his being dead, I don’t feel the total and constant agony I felt in the beginning. So <em>was</em> is the better choice. It connotes hope rather than futility.</p>
<p>So, <em>I’m trying to find comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering, and for a moment yesterday I even envied him. I wish my pain was over, too. </em></p>
<p>Someday, perhaps, it will be.</p>
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		<title>My Grief Book is One Step Closer to Publication</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 20 Jan 2012 05:22:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Pat Bertram</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Grief: The Great Yearning is one step closer to publication. Today I received what might be the final copyedits. One of my fellow bereft volunteered to proof the book for me (actually, a mutual friend volunteered him, and he was kind enough to go along with the suggestion), and he turned out to be a [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=ptbertram.wordpress.com&amp;blog=1786222&amp;post=4087&amp;subd=ptbertram&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em><a href="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/official.jpg"><img class=" wp-image-4088 alignleft" title="Grief: The Great Yearning by Pat Bertram" src="http://ptbertram.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/official.jpg?w=137&#038;h=210" alt="" width="137" height="210" /></a>Grief: The Great Yearning</em> is one step closer to publication. Today I received what might be the final copyedits. One of my fellow bereft volunteered to proof the book for me (actually, a mutual friend volunteered him, and he was kind enough to go along with the suggestion), and he turned out to be a phenomenal copyeditor. Found mistakes that all the rest of us missed. We don’t even have the excuse that we couldn’t see the words for the tears, since he had the same problem.</p>
<p>Very few people have managed to get through the book dry-eyed. Even though each person’s grief is different, there are enough similarities that this book speaks to everyone. It’s been called powerful, profound, exquisite, wrenching, raw, real. One woman wrote me, “I really like your book. When my husband died I devoured books about loss of spouse&#8230;maybe 30-40. The ones that were most helpful were similar to yours in that they recounted the journey. NONE were as complete as yours and that is what I wanted.”</p>
<p>Some people think the book will be best as a companion to those who are grieving. Some people think it will be best as a book to give their friends and relatives to help their loved ones understand what the bereft is going through. Some people think it should be required reading in classes for would-be therapists. Some people think it should be handed out to everyone whose spouse signs up with hospice so they are not shocked and bewildered when grief hits.</p>
<p>I never set out to write a book about grief. I merely cried out to an unfeeling void, looking for whatever comfort I could, trying to understand what had happened to him and me and our shared life. Apparently all that chaotic feeling ended up on paper, and now those emotions are tidily packed away into a book. Well, packed away until someone opens the book; then emotion explodes out of the binding.</p>
<p>Writing fiction comes hard to me. I have to drag every word out of my depths, but the words in this book came gushing forth. Of course, I was writing for me, not for others, and I didn’t have to create emotion out of nothing. I had emotion to spare.</p>
<p>Perhaps the time is right for this book. Perhaps it won’t mosey along like my novels, but will burn up the atmosphere when it takes off. Perhaps I really did write an important book. What a strange thought.</p>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Jan 2012 04:12:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[At it’s most simplistic, a scene is an action sequence that begins with a character trying to attain a goal, is further developed when someone or something tries to prevent the character from attaining the goal, and ends when either the goal is reached or disaster ensues. Either way, we should learn something new about [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=ptbertram.wordpress.com&amp;blog=1786222&amp;post=4083&amp;subd=ptbertram&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p>A novel is a seamless flow of story from scene to scene without interruption. At least it should appear that way. In actuality, time sometimes passes between one scene and the next, and it’s the way the writer handles transitions that makes the story flow.</p>
<p>Authors used to write long pieces of narrative and exposition linking scenes, but that isn’t necessary, and in today’s fast-paced world is a serious drawback. Readers want to plunge immediately into a new scene without being distracted by boring discourses.</p>
<p>One of the easiest and perhaps most effective ways of making a scene transition is simply to skip a space and start the new scene. (Or rather, start in an interesting place in a new scene.) <em>“I’m dead,” Scott said. He lay in bed under the blue patchwork comforter Gracie had made him, his head turned toward the window.</em></p>
<p>Another easy way is to start with the grandmother of all scene transitions: <em>Later</em>. Just that one word. Or you can add a bit of time, <em>A month later, Scott fell from a high beam</em>.</p>
<p>Another good transition word is <em>After</em>. For example: <em>After Scott had been pronounced dead, after he had been cleaned and shrouded in a white blanket, after he’d been hauled away in a purple body bag like so much garbage, the hospice nurse remained to comfort Gracie</em>.</p>
<p>Or you can use seasons: <em>In the spring, she buried Scott’s ashes beneath the dead willow</em>.</p>
<p>On Facebook, a writer asked if it was okay to jump forward six months in a novel. My response: &#8216;It&#8217;s perfectly acceptable to jump ahead, and in a lot of cases, it&#8217;s the best thing for the book as long as you do the transition right. That way you keep hitting the high points of the story. If nothing significant happens in those six months (and you need the time to pass) then it&#8217;s better to jump ahead rather than bore your readers to death with unimportant events and dialogue. It&#8217;s easy enough to do &#8212; just start the chapter with &#8220;Six months have passed since such and such happened, and now, etc.&#8221; Might not be elegant, but it gets the point across.&#8217;</p>
<p>Other authors disagreed with my transition suggestion, saying it was too much author intrusion, that it would pull people out of the story, but I do know it wouldn’t pull people out of the story as much as six months worth of nothing happening.</p>
<p>This isn’t the exact wording as my inelegant response, but it’s basically the same thing: <em>During the following spring, as the second anniversary of Scott’s death drew near, Gracie realized . . . again . . . he would never come back. He was gone forever, and since grief hadn’t killed her, much to her shock, she knew she’d have to do something to get her life back.</em></p>
<p>These are just a few ways I made the transition from scene to scene in a short story I recently wrote for an anthology that Second Wind Publishing will release this spring. Since my 2,100-word story spanned twenty-five years, I needed a lot of transitions. Without the transitions taking me from scene to scene, all I would have had is a long, boring narration of an uneventful marriage that ended in death.</p>
<p>So let’s talk about scenes and transitions from scene to scene. How do you personally write scenes and make transitions?</p>
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