Comments for Bertram's Blog http://ptbertram.wordpress.com Wed, 19 Jun 2013 05:01:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on The Loosening Spiral of Grief by nivaladiva http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2013/06/18/the-loosening-spiral-of-grief/#comment-17116 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 05:01:49 +0000 http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/?p=7659#comment-17116 Sometimes I feel like it couldn’t have actually happened, I must have dreamt it all. Then I remember it was real, the good and the bad. Not sure it will ever make sense. Writing and talking about it certainly helps.

I knew that picture looked familiar. That’s one of my favorite areas, been there many times. :)

]]> Comment on The Loosening Spiral of Grief by Pat Bertram http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2013/06/18/the-loosening-spiral-of-grief/#comment-17115 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 01:28:06 +0000 http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/?p=7659#comment-17115 That picture was taken about 85 miles west of Joshua Tree/Twenty-nine Palms.

I like your idea tha the answer is already inside us. It’s why I’m trying to do what I can to stir up my heart/mind/soul to see what lies is in the far reaches of my being, because I too believe that the answer is inside us.

I’ve been thinking about you all day, unable to imagine what you went through — newly wed and newly widowed almost at once. Life is astonishing at times, and seemingly astonishingly cruel. (I say seemingly because I’d like to believe that somewhere, somehow, this will all make sense.)

]]> Comment on How To Describe a Person Who is Drowning by ROD MARSDEN http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2013/06/14/how-to-describe-a-person-who-is-drowning/#comment-17114 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 23:38:27 +0000 http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/?p=7628#comment-17114 Cars and trucks going over cliffs and exploding when they presumably hit the ground is wrong. Most cars and trucks will crumple rather than explode. I saw a French movie once where they got the timing wrong. The truck exploded a fraction of a second before it hit. Obviously the guys making the explosion happen did so too soon and they didn’t have the money to do the scene over again.

]]> Comment on How To Describe a Person Who is Drowning by ROD MARSDEN http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2013/06/14/how-to-describe-a-person-who-is-drowning/#comment-17113 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 23:30:56 +0000 http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/?p=7628#comment-17113 Yes, loss of body heat can be a factor.

]]> Comment on The Loosening Spiral of Grief by nivaladiva http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2013/06/18/the-loosening-spiral-of-grief/#comment-17112 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 23:27:47 +0000 http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/?p=7659#comment-17112 I love your writing, so visual and evocative…the image of you wandering in the desert asking for answers, complaining, thinking, listening. Is that picture of Joshua Tree/Twenynine Palms? If not, looks just like it! I believe the answer to “what do I want” will come to you one day. It’s so hard to re-envision our lives without the loved one we lost, but perhaps the answer is already inside us, in some childhood memory or dream we once had. Life as a tool we write with is a very deep and wonderful thought indeed.

]]> Comment on How To Describe a Person Who is Drowning by Pat Bertram http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2013/06/14/how-to-describe-a-person-who-is-drowning/#comment-17108 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 21:28:11 +0000 http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/?p=7628#comment-17108 Most truths aren’t splashy enough for movies, not just water truths. For example, in almost all cinematic car chases, the driver turns around to look out the back window. I mean, who in real life ever does that? But quietly glancing at a rear view mirror isn’t dramatic enough, I guess.

I’m so glad you didn’t drown! Not just because it would ave been a terrible way to go, but because I would have missed knowing you.

]]> Comment on How To Describe a Person Who is Drowning by lvgaudet http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2013/06/14/how-to-describe-a-person-who-is-drowning/#comment-17107 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 20:44:12 +0000 http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/?p=7628#comment-17107 This is interesting. Every person drowning in a movie or book went completely against my own experience. I always thought there must be something wrong with me I panicked. I froze. I read an article recently too that described the real signs of drowning. The couple thought their boat captain was jumping in to rescue them, that he mistook their play splashing. It never occurred to them their kid was quietly drowning behind then.

It makes me wonder what else is often described wrong either from simple ignorance or just because the reality isn’t splashy enough.

]]> Comment on The Unchanging Face of Grief by Pat Bertram http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2013/06/17/the-unchanging-face-of-grief/#comment-17106 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 19:23:32 +0000 http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/?p=7654#comment-17106 Every part of this journey is hard, so It’s great that you at least know the direction you’d like to go. Best of luck to you in your new focus.

]]> Comment on The Unchanging Face of Grief by nivaladiva http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2013/06/17/the-unchanging-face-of-grief/#comment-17104 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 16:52:02 +0000 http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/?p=7654#comment-17104 Downward spiral vs. upward staircase is a great metaphor and distinction. I feel like I’ve made some progress by knowing the direction I’d like to go, but am still struggling to make it happen. One day you will do the same. It’s a long process. My heart goes out to you, Pat.

]]> Comment on My Punctuated Life of Equilibrium by Pat Bertram http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2013/06/15/my-punctuated-life-of-equilibrium/#comment-17103 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 15:54:52 +0000 http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/?p=7632#comment-17103 I hope you are doing well, Maline. Maybe finding a bit of unpunctuated equilibrium.

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